If your middle-schooler is short a few dollars before the next scheduled payment of allowance and wants to buy the school yearbook that has just come out, she may ask for an advance on her allowance. In this case, you may want to give her the advance she needs. Before you accommodate her, though, make sure that you have some ground rules straight.
What’s the money going to be used for? In other words, is the advance really necessary, or does your child just know you to be a softy? Maybe she can wait for another week’s allowance to make the purchase. Maybe she can cut back on expenses for a time. Maybe she doesn’t need to buy the thing at all. Does she understand that an advance is like borrowing money? She’s using money that isn’t hers yet to pay for things. If her allowance is tied to doing chores, then she’s really getting paid today for work she’ll do tomorrow. She’ll still have to do the work even though she already has been paid for it. How often does she ask for an advance? If it’s once and a while, you may be only too glad to oblige. But if it’s becoming a habit and she’s always a dollar short and a day late, you may want to just say no. If you grant her the advance, you’re only encouraging her poor money management. She may have to re-examine her priorities: Does she need to buy everything she’s spending her money on? Does she need to do all the activities she’s using her money for? It may be a good idea to look at Teaching Your Child About Money Management, Savvy Shopping Strategies for Kids, and Setting Up a Budget for Your Child.
