What Is Paternity Leave?
When people refer to paternity leave, they are referring to the period of time when a father stops working because he is about to have or just had a new baby (or an adopted baby). More often, paternity leave is referred to as family leave or parental leave because this type of leave does not just involve fathers. It can apply to mothers, fathers, or domestic partners. It is important to point out that not all companies have a paternity leave policy, especially smaller companies. And, if companies do offer paternity leave, it is not always paid. Generally, in the United States, new dads do not receive paid time off after the birth of a new child.
Know Your Rights
There are some important laws to be aware of when learning your options for paternal leave. It is important to note some of the stipulations of the FMLA first though. For instance, the FMLA does not require an employer to pay the parent while they are on leave. So, in many cases, the parent is granted leave and guaranteed their job when they return, but they are not paid during that time period. Another factor to consider is that the FMLA only applies to companies with 50 or more employees within 75 miles of your workplace. You also have to have worked a minimum of 1,250 hours during the prior year. As a result, parents who work for small companies or who are new to a larger company are not entitled to leave under the FMLA. However, this does not mean that your employer will not grant paternity leave. So, it is worth asking to see if they have a policy in place. There are some states that have supplemented the FMLA to provide longer leaves and reduce the minimum employer size to below 50 employees. Additionally, California, New Jersey, Rhode Island, New York, Washington, Washington D.C., and Massachusetts require paid family leave. (Connecticut and Oregon will require paid leave in 2022 and 2023, respectively.) However, the only way to be sure if you qualify for paternity leave—and whether or not it is paid—is to talk with your company’s benefits administrator
Benefits and Challenges of Paternity Leave
When fathers take time off, it can promote parent-child bonding, improve outcomes for children, and even increase gender equality in the home and at the workplace. Yet despite these advantages, many fathers still face economic and social barriers that keep them from taking more time off. One of the obstacles is workplace norms about male breadwinners. In many companies, it is frowned upon for men to take time off to care for a newborn or an adopted child. Male workers may face tension in the workplace when they prioritize family over work. What’s more, in the U.S., employers are more likely to offer paid maternity leave than they are to offer paid paternity leave, leading to financial obstacles as well. However, proponents of paternity leave stress that empowering dads with paid paternity leave allows them to achieve their professional goals while also becoming supportive and nurturing fathers and partners, rather than getting burned out trying to fill both roles at once. In the end, everyone benefits from fathers being at home for a period of time.
How to Plan Your Paternity Leave
Every good paternity leave begins with a good plan. Not only will planning in advance help things at the office run smoothly, but it also will help you and your partner consider how you will meet the financial needs and demands of your family, especially if your time off is unpaid. What’s more, because very few companies offer paternity leave plans, you will likely have to decide how to prepare your co-workers, stay in touch with the office, outsource your work, and transition back after your leave has ended. Here are some guidelines for planning your paternity leave:
Determine the Best Time to Take Your Leave
When it comes to determining when to take your paternity leave, start with a conversation with your partner. Some parents prefer to take their time off at different times so that your newborn can adjust to life at home before heading into child care. Meanwhile, other parents want to take their time off together so that they can bond together with the baby. If your partner is a stay-at-home parent, ask what they prefer. Sometimes there is a great deal of recovery involved after childbirth and it is most helpful for the family to have the non-birthing partner home. They can help care for the baby while the recovering parent rests. Whatever your decision, make sure it is the best choice for everyone involved.
Develop a Game Plan
Once you have determined the best time to take your paternity leave, you want to figure out if you can afford it, especially if you are the primary breadwinner. After all, some or all of the leave might be unpaid. So while it might sound nice to have time off with the baby, you also need to be realistic about what you can afford to do. Another option, of course, is to see if your boss would let you work half days or telecommute. Although you would not be home the entire time, a little time off with your partner and the baby could be beneficial for the entire family. Other things to think about as you are putting together your plan include how accessible you want to be while you are gone as well as how much you plan to work in the weeks you come back. The next step in your plan is to make a list of all your primary responsibilities. Then, start to think about what you can delegate and who in the office could most handle your responsibilities. If there is no one on staff that has the time or flexibility to handle your tasks while you are out, consider suggesting a temporary employee.
Start a Dialogue With Your Boss
Once you have decided when you would like to take your leave, it is important to start a conversation with your boss. You want to be sure your boss is the first one you tell if you are planning to take paternity leave. The worst-case scenario is for them to find out from someone else. When you do talk to your boss, emphasize that you are a committed employee and reassure them that you will develop a comprehensive paternity leave plan so that things run smoothly while you are out. This conversation should be the first of many that you have as you work out the details of a paternity leave plan.
Develop Allies Among Your Co-Workers
After you have talked with your boss and worked through a rough plan, the next step is to get your co-workers on board with the idea of you leaving for a set period of time. If you have people who report to you, be sure to emphasize the fact that your paternity leave represents a great opportunity for them to demonstrate their skills and abilities in your absence and to take on more responsibility. They key to getting your co-workers on board is to focus on how they might benefit from taking on a few more responsibilities. You don’t want to dump a bunch of work onto their plates and just expect them to pick up the slack while you are gone. You need to work to get their support. Listen to what they have to say. Are they feeling overwhelmed? Remember, not everyone is eager to take on more responsibilities. Be flexible and work to collaborate on a solution that you all can be happy with.
Communicate with Outside Clients or Customers
If your business responsibilities include working with outside customers and clients, you will need to have a conversation with them about your paternity leave as well. Talk to them about how things will function in your absence and who they will be working with. You also want to be sure you let them know to handle issues and who to contact. It’s very important that your customers and clients have a sense of comfort with you being out. One way to alleviate any concerns is to schedule a meeting while you are still at the office between you, the interim contact, and the client. This way, the two can meet each other and develop an initial relationship before you are on paternity leave. You also may want to allow the interim contact to handle a few of the customer or client calls while you are still there. This way, if there are any problems, you can get them worked out before you go on paternity leave.
Plan Regular Check-Ins With the Office
While it is absolutely acceptable for you to be unavailable for large portions of the workday while you are on leave (especially if you are not getting paid), you will still need to have some contact with the office. When you are available during specific time periods, this gives everyone at the office a sense of comfort that if they have a question for you, they can get it answered. The key is to determine ahead of time how and when you will be in contact with the office. For instance, a once-a-week conference call may be all that your team at work needs. Or, perhaps you are more comfortable with text or email. The important thing is that you establish how and when you can be reached beforehand. Then, if it is not working the way you envisioned, be sure to communicate with your co-workers and tweak your plan somewhat.
Avoid Overcommitting
Most first-time dads are surprised by how much is involved in taking care of a newborn baby, especially if they are the only parent at home. As a result, do not expect your paternity leave to feel like a vacation because it definitely won’t. Additionally, you want to avoid making yourself too available to the office staff while you are on paternity leave. Plus, you have no way of knowing right now what kind of special situations you might have with your baby. For instance, you could have a colicky baby that keeps you up all night. As a result, you will be catching up on sleep during the day when the baby is resting. The last thing you need is to be scheduled for a noon conference call every day of paternity leave.
A Word from Verywell
Preparing for a family leave can be very stressful, especially for fathers who must deal with stereotypes and pressures to work in spite of a new baby at home. But with consistent communication and careful planning, you can put together a paternity leave plan that not only meets your needs but also satisfies your employer by providing a clear plan about how things will be handled in your absence.
