But what if your child starts hating bath time as they get older (or never even liked it in the first place)? It’s not like bathing is optional! Meanwhile, your child’s reluctance could cause major issues in the house, disrupting the bedtime routine and leading to unnecessary tears. If you’re tired of battling with a semi-nude, tantrum-throwing toddler every night at bath time, never fear: we have all the tips and tricks you need to turn bathing into a positive activity that your kiddo looks forward to instead of protesting.
Why Do Some Kids Hate Baths?
If you’ve got a toddler, then it’s no surprise that these pint-sized people are walking mysteries. Why do they hate broccoli? Why do they hate taking naps? What’s so bad about the color orange? Why are they asking to wear their old Halloween costume in July? That said, there are three common reasons why kids turn against baths.
Why You Should Care
You’ve watched your toddler eat spaghetti without utensils, dig in the dirt for earthworms, and finger paint their entire body in the name of artistic expression. Let’s face it: toddlers aren’t the tidiest people on the planet. They need baths to avoid turning into Pigpen from the Peanuts and it’s your job to make it happen. More important than sheer physical need, though, is the fact that it’s also your job as a parent to help your child feel more comfortable in the world. Yes, some kids get over random fears on their own in good time. But others cling to old phobias as they age, unable to overcome their worries without an adult’s guidance. You might be able to overlook your two-year-old’s bath time reluctance now, but it won’t be so easy to convince him when he’s five or six. It’s important to gently and consistently show your child that bath time is not such a big deal after all. How? Here are five easy ways.
Take It Slow
If you were afraid of water, would you want to be deposited into 40+ gallons of the stuff on a nightly basis against your will? Probably not. Sometimes, the sheer amount of water in the tub is overwhelming for a young child and can act as a major deterrent to setting foot inside.
Make It Fun
This tip works for kids who hate baths for mostly any reason, whether it’s fear or plain old disinterest. Introduce a new toy, bottle of bubbles, or activity (like drawing with bathtub crayons) into the equation, and your reluctant bather might turn into an excited one at the drop of a hat. Tell them this new item is for bath time only, so they have to get in the tub if they want it.
Make It Different
If putting a new toy or product into the tub doesn’t entice your kiddo to bathe, you might need to go big: change up the whole bathroom environment to create a more positive association with getting into the tub. Kids who aren’t afraid of the dark might love turning the lights off and tossing a glow-in-the-dark bath bomb into the tub. You can play soothing spa music on Bluetooth speakers, light a yummy-smelling candle, or even give them a small snack on a portable tray. Try letting your child wear their bathing suit. Read them a book or watch a short video while they bathe. One note: this approach has the potential to get out of hand fast! Make sure you set limits. The cool stuff only happens if your child stays in the tub long enough to get clean. Do it this way a few times, and then start phasing it out.
Ditch the Tub
Most kids won’t be mature enough to shower independently until they’re at least eight years old, but if your toddler’s issues are tied specifically to baths, it might be easier for everyone to replace bath time with shower time. You’ll have to supervise and assist, of course, but as your child gets older they’ll be able to shower on their own. Taking a shower can also be a novel activity to a kid bored with baths—one that eventually paves the way toward them getting back in the tub after a week or two.
Create a Reward System
We’re all more likely to do things we don’t want to do when there’s an incentive at the end. This is especially true for toddlers, who love seeing their hard work add up to a long-wished-for prize. Make a sticker chart, add plastic coins to a jar, or color in squares on a graph. Add one for every night your child takes a bath without a fight (or meets whatever your specific expectations are). It doesn’t matter how you track your child’s progress or what you motivate them with, as long as you’re creating a visual representation of their efforts and praising them a ton along the way.
