You can help put this new coordination to increasingly sophisticated use. If your child hasn’t yet learned how to swim, her new coordination makes four a great age to start. You also can teach her how to jump rope. Another challenging physical activity you might want to introduce this year is roller skating. Dance classes also are great fun at age four-for boys as well as girls. Dance classes give your child the chance to practice and perfect a variety of physical skills (balance, movement, rhythm, and coordination) and also provide a terrific social opportunity. Other classes or activities that encourage both physical and social development include:
Gymnastics Martial arts Soccer Horseback riding
If your child seems less coordinated than other children her age, offer some pointers. Show her how to climb a ladder safely or how to set her feet for the landing at the bottom of the slide. Teach her how to kick a soccer ball or throw a baseball or football. Consider enrolling her in one of the classes previously suggested. (Your town or city recreation department may sponsor preschool programs at low cost.) Activities like these will help her to put a variety of muscles to work, strengthen her muscles, and let her practice coordinating muscle movements. Besides seeing improved coordination and balance as well as greater strength, speed, and overall agility, you will notice considerable refinement in your child’s fine motor skills, too. Actions that mystified her less than a year ago will seem easy to your four-year-old—especially if you encourage her to practice these skills. At four, your child can probably button her own shirts and manage zippers (though she might need help getting started). She can pour cereal, milk, juice, and syrup if the containers aren’t too heavy. She can cut skillfully and precisely with scissors and string beads no matter how small they are.
How Much Activity Is Too Much?
Almost all four-year-olds run around like crazy. They jump on beds and couches, throw themselves around like rag dolls, and literally bounce off the walls. They have an apparently endless supply of energy and exuberance. And they are very, very loud! So just because your child can’t sit still for more than a minute without jumping up and racing off somewhere (few four-year-olds can), don’t jump to the conclusion that he must be hyperactive. In all likelihood, he’s behaving perfectly normally for his age. Although rarely diagnosed before elementary school, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is one of the fastest-growing diagnoses in American pediatrics today. But in the rush to label and treat genuine cases of ADHD among America’s children, the disorder is now probably overdiagnosed. Certainly, if you have genuine concerns about your child’s “hyperactivity” and short attention span, you should consult your pediatrician. But unless your child finds himself unable to attend to any task, even one that he finds engaging, he almost definitely doesn’t have ADHD. So before rushing to the doctor to see whether your preschooler has ADHD, first try to provide him with plenty of opportunities for active play (preferably outdoors): running, jumping, climbing, chasing, riding tricycles or pedal cars, circle games, tag, follow the leader, and general physical silliness. Also try to orchestrate activities that involve shouting, screaming, and general loudness. Your preschooler may seem unusually fidgety only because he hasn’t been given an outlet for all of his energy. Regular opportunities for physical release—shaking his sillies out-may make it easier for your child to enjoy quiet times, too. Who knows? You may even find some quiet time yourself.
